i really hate that i need to post a note saying what i’m about to say. but here i go. this blog, and other writing i do, is not an invitation to ask me out. particularly when your offer comes in the form of something along the lines of “i hear you date black guys. sweet. i love me some indian women. care to meet up?” my writing about race and relationships does not mean, in any way whatsoever, that i want to go out with you because of the color of your skin. we don’t know each other. also, not sure why this needs to be elaborated on again, but i don’t “date black guys” as a category, exclusively or otherwise. nor do i not date any other group of men. so similarly, to those who write me and want to prove me wrong when i’ve criticized the bad behavior, stereotypical or not, of men of my own ethnic and cultural background, you get the same response. i do not want to meet you.
if it’s unclear why these messages are offensive, you need to be educating yourself with more than just this blog.
to everyone else, thanks for reading, leaving thoughtful comments, and sending supportive emails. much love <3